When a person dies, it’s hard to know what to do on big grief dates. Both on anniversaries of positive dates - like weddings and birthdays, as well as anniversaries of the tougher dates - like diagnoses and deaths.
Is a celebration appropriate? Is it better to wallow in bed? Do you involve others or plan a solo day?
Read MoreWe talk a lot about what not to say to someone grieving. But earlier this week, someone asked me for some helpful things to actually say. Here is a list from the experts…
Read MoreLike most milestones and momentous events, it’s complicated and a full pendulum of emotions. It’s a week with lots of highs. And it’s also a week of one significant low - the unfillable hole that is the absence of Brad.
Read MoreIt is inevitable we will show up in the wrong way and say the wrong thing. That’s part of being human. But that doesn’t mean we stop trying.
Read More4 years ago, my life changed forever. With one hand gripping my leg and the other safely tucked in my palm, Brad’s heart stopped beating. The memory - and trauma - of that day lives deep in my bones. Although it’s gentler now. Less harsh. It’s more settled and comfortable in my body.
Read MoreThis is grief. What is happening in our world. In our communities. In our homes. It’s called grief.
Collectively, we are mourning the loss of our planned future while at the same time, being isolated from the community we need.
Read MoreHow to you buy a gift for someone who just lost the love of their life? Or a parent who lost a child? Or for someone recently diagnosed with cancer?
You shift the focus of the gift.
You don’t send a gift with the intention of eliminating their grief (you can’t). You send it as a way to say, “I acknowledge what you’re going through, this totally sucks, and I’m here.”
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